I don't think you're living in a fantasy bubble. Marriage is a partnership, or at least is should be a partnership. If all the money belongs to the one person who works outside the house and none belongs to the one who stays home to take care of the child and the household, that's not a partnership. That's servitude.

That being said though, there does seem to be a substantial group of people who place no value on stay-at-home spouses.

On a somewhat tangental topic, I suggest that you make sure Bruce knows where to find the passwords for the online accounts even if you normally deal with them yourself. I've known a few people who ended up up the creek without a paddle when their spouse was suddenly unable to deal with the household accounts.