I don't know where it came from (my parents certainly did not feel/function that way), but I felt guilty about spending my spouse's money during the only time I ever was a SAHS (spouse -- I've never been a mother). He didn't feel that way, AAMOF, I think it bugged him that I felt that way, but I did. For some reason, I need my money to be paid to me, for some specific thing I did, otherwise I feel guilty about spending it.

My relationship with money has been much more healthy in the last twenty years since we split up [wry g].

So I'm not so sure it's a societal thing, and not an individual psychology thing.